Woman warned to keep her son away from his 'unhinged' grandmother and 'change the locks' after her 'toxic' behaviour
A woman has reached out to the internet for advice on how to deal with her 'overbearing' mother - who has claimed she is being 'kept from her grandson'.Taking to Reddit, the parent, thought to be from the US, recounted how she invited her newborn son's grandmother to the hospital to meet him soon after the delivery; but the special moment was not enough for her.Instead, she took the opportunity to state that she would be visiting their home less than 24 hours after mother and baby were discharged to 'help out and hold her grandson'.Understandably, the wife and husband both felt that they would rather have some time alone so soon after the birth - and so suggested that she visit the newborn the following weekend. The grandmother was not pleased with the offer, claiming they were 'banning' her from seeing her grandchild and adding that it was 'mean' not to allow visit when her love language is acts of service'.'We caved and allowed her to come over the day after getting home from the hospital,' the woman's post read.'During her visit, she proceeded to point out everything she believed we were doing wrong as parents (give him the pacifier, put him in the sun, etc.) and refused to listen when we told her that we did not want unsolicited advice.'Two days after the incident, the grandmother was yearning for more time with her grandson yet again and messaged the new parents saying 'my grandson misses me'. Internet users have been left in shock after a new mother revealed her mother-in-law's 'overbearing' behaviour weeks after giving birth After previously giving into her mother's demands, the woman decided to stand her ground and said she and her husband 'are limiting guests until the baby gets his first vaccines'. She instead suggested that the grandmother visit in two weeks time. Perhaps unsurprisingly she was not pleased with the suggestion and after ignoring the message for two days asked for a call with her daughter. During this, the grandmother accused the couple of 'keeping her from her grandson' and added that she knows what is best for the new baby. 'I told her that we are her parents and she has no say in what we do with our child or when we would like to have guests over,' the post continued.'She has now begun to complain to other family members that my husband and I are being overly cautious about our child's health and we don't know what we're doing as parents.'She feels 'conflicted' about the issue - as she wants 'her to feel like a part of his life but feels like she is overstepping'.Reddit users were quick to rally against the grandmother with several people labelling her as 'unhinged', 'an overbearing nightmare', and 'toxic.' One commenter wrote: 'What she's doing is unhinged. Get a doorbell camera. Keep your doors locked, if she has a key just change your locks and don't tell her.'If she wants to throw a fit like a toddler on social media or send family after you to harass you, count it as a blessing because she's going to give you all the evidence you need for a restraining order.'Others thought that the new mother was being far too kind and needed to be firmer in the way she addressed the situation. One person wrote: 'Your mother sounds like an overbearing nightmare. If she’s going to accuse you of being mean? Be mean. Well maybe not mean, but brutally honest.'Next time she says she wants to come over say, “No. I don’t need another afternoon of your criticism. You’re not helpful and I don’t like having you here”. If she trash talks you to other family or friends tell her to stop dragging you or you’ll go no contact.' Another person said: 'She sounds like a pretty toxic personality to have around an impressionable child.'Others gave suggestions on how the family can meet in the middle so that everyone's boundaries are respected and their expectations are met. One comment read: 'In the meantime, make an occasional video call to her so she can see your child. 'Don't make it a regular thing, just once in a while when you have energy and baby is awake and in a good mood.'A second users gave a different option, they wrote: 'Take the baby to her house or a public location for visits. 'This way there isn't that awkward moment when you have to throw your mother out of your house. Instead, if you go somewhere for the visit you can get up and leave.' A final person hilariously said: 'Tell her that her grandson is still brand new to the world. The only thing he misses at this point is still being in the womb. It was nice and dark and warm and so soothing. 'Now he's out in the world and all he can hear is his grandma's squawking.'
