I read my boyfriend's private birthday cards from last year and what I discovered has ruined our relationship. Was I wrong?
A 25-year-old woman has been left questioning her relationship after a seemingly innocent glance at her boyfriend's old birthday cards uncovered a bombshell she said she never saw coming.What she thought was a minor lapse in judgment has spiralled into a trust crisis, with her boyfriend branding her behaviour a betrayal.But when the woman turned to Reddit for advice, thousands of strangers insisted she isn't the problem at all, warning her instead that she may be dating what they described as a 'walking red flag'.She divulged that she personally grew up in a home where Christmas and birthday cards were always displayed proudly.'In my experience people in my circle of friends and family always displayed them in the home,' she wrote.So, when she noticed her boyfriend had several cards sitting out on his shelf, she didn't think much of it and picked one up to read it.'I looked at a birthday card and realised it was a lot more private than I expected,' she admitted.The woman revealed the card was from his female 'best friend' and was dated back to last year. A 25-year-old woman has been left questioning her relationship after a seemingly innocent glance at her boyfriend's old birthday cards uncovered a bombshell she said she never saw coming 'It said: 'I can't wait to marry you,' and was about their engagement.''Because I am an idiot: He still lives with this best friend. I thought they were just roommates and best friends, not ex-fiancés.'Horrified at what she had read, and quickly realising the history she hadn't fully understood before, the woman said she immediately confessed to her boyfriend.'He's disgusted with me, I've betrayed his trust, and that of the person who wrote it. she continued.'[He] says no one would ever go through private correspondence like that.'The woman insisted it had been an honest mistake, explaining she 'didn't know a card on a shelf was private' and had gone straight to him because she 'felt horrible' when she realised how personal it was.But according to her, he wasn't convinced and has since admitted that he's not sure now how he is now supposed to build a life with someone who has no respect for boundaries of privacy.'He says he wants to, but doesn't know how,' she shared, before asking fellow Redditors how she can help him see that it was an honest mistake and that they can still trust each other. The woman revealed the card was from his female 'best friend' and was dated back to last year. 'It said: 'I can't wait to marry you,' and was about their engagement,' she wrote. 'He still lives with this best friend. I thought they were just roommates and best friends, not ex-fiancés' When the woman turned to Reddit for advice, thousands of strangers insisted she isn't the problem at all, warning her instead that she may be dating what they described as a 'walking red flag'But instead of advising her on how to rebuild trust, commenters turned their attention squarely onto her boyfriend and his living situation.'Let me get this straight,' one wrote.'Your BF lives with his ex-fiancée, (now his BFF), has never told you much about their relationship, has a deeply personal card from her displayed out in the open, all while being in a relationship with you?'And, he is deeply offended because you glanced at the contents of the card? You are being played.''Back up. He lied about his housemate being his EX FIANCEE but you're the one he can't trust?' another questioned.'That is a MUCH BIGGER deal than reading publicly displayed postcard!' a third warned.'He says you betrayed his trust, but he didn't brake yours by omitting he lives with his ex-fiancée?' a fourth wrote.And there were plenty of others who described the dynamic as manipulative.'This reminds me exactly of my manipulative ex where everything I did was wrong and I had to always apologise and work on my actions to prove it to him that I want to earn his trust back.''Stop playing these silly games,' one said.'They're clearly not over each other. No one lives with their ex-fiancé, and especially no one serious about their new partner.''As the saying goes, people who hide things have things to hide,' another concluded.
